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Tamara Wellons
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Tamara Falls in Love (again)
I have fallen in love many times. I fell in love with sunsets, and books, netflix lol, and many times, with being a loner. I have fallen in love with craziness, like heath bar crunch ice cream, and more books, and then it was his facial expression. I fell in love with the movement of his tongue as he said, “Take the 36 to Marble Arch” and “The London Eye.” haha. Oh and packin…I seem to fall in love with packing up- being on the run. Today I fell in love with Trinity, as I dropped her off to her new school where she is fully immersed in a new language. What a brave girl. Today I also fell in love with the magic of “keeping on”. For the past couple of days, I felt stagnant in many ways. I call it the mud. But here’s when reflecting and keeping video footage helps me remember what really makes me smile big.
Tamara Wellons Sessions for ….Janie Project
In the Studio with Federico Pena for Ah God
Every time I start to panic about not finishing, not completing, not having enough, I go back to take a look at how far I have come. Here is a clip from an early summer month recording at the Sweet Spot Studios with Federico Pena and Nico Laget…I have had many days of ecstasy in the studio. So through moments of uncertainty, I remember my sessions and purpose filled work. Take a look in…
Process
Wow. So much has been happening in the last month or so. Being in it feels like forever, but stepping out of it to look at everything really gives me perspective.
Last week I was in the studio with Federico Pena working out the final touches of a few tunes on my Songs for Janie album. It was a great week. The songs are really coming together as I envisioned them and better.
I have been challenged with the idea of PROCESS lately. I get anxious at times thinking “time” is going somewhere when there is an abundance of it just as there is money. 
The process of divorce, the process of healing, the process of recording, the process of parenting …you can get all the coaches in the world but the process will still have to take place. The pain and hurt will have to be dealt with, the schedule conflicts will push everything back, the ball will drop when there is no money….Life.
I say it all with a smile.
Videos, music, merchandise, tour, camps, and workshops are all in the pipes and I will be happy to share this process.
Instant Gratification
You want instant gratification? Boil some water and pour in a cup of oatmeal. Better yet, peel a banana and enjoy eating it. Don’t be a songwriter or musician. You will experience overtime with no pay. You will get the satisfaction of listening to a complete work over and over again in your own player or force people who hop a ride with you to “listen to this.” No one else may ever hear it or get it. And somehow it will become your lifeline. You will not want to do anything else but work on a song or collaborate with a musician or create a new project for your life’s purpose. Put on the slow cooker.
The Magical Fairy flew away
My daughters are reading (making up) a story about a living happily ever after. I listen.
“The princess got married. Everyone is so happy. Everybody’s happy and the magical fairy flew away. The end.”
That’s about how it goes. They don’t know. I had no idea until the magical fairy flew away. Forgiveness, patience, real love for yourself and your spouse…complicated and definitely not easy.
Eternal blessings to those people who try and do and give this type of union its all. Blessings to those who give it all up for love too. The end.
